C. D. Lind (cd_lind) wrote in gay_bahai,
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I don't know whether to be happy or sad to see that this community is so quiet, but at least I'm here now.

*waves* Hi all, I'm Ceci and I'm a bisexual Bahá'í. ["Hi Ceci" *g*]

I became a Bahá'í at the age of 15 for various reasons. I agreed with the teachings and all, up to the point of chastity...which I've always struggled with. But I've also always swept those doubts under the rug, taking my feelings for women and need for physical contact with it (how I love hugs, cuddling, and kisses, and I want it all NOW! Man, woman, I don't care as long as it's someone I like who likes me back...but I became the Ice Queen for 15 years). But two days ago, it all came out, and while I'm confused about what this wil mean re: my membership in the Bahá'í Community (ie, can I stay, and if I don't, can my Bahá'í friends accept it?), it does feel good to have it out in the open at last (15 years...amazing).
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yeah, you can stay. you won't get kicked out or anything. if you the community finds out you have a girlfriend though and it becomes a community affair, you'll probably have people trying to deepen you on why it's wrong and getting you to change your ways or at least be more private about them, but they won't kick you out.
There is no LSA around here as there are only two Bahá'ís, and we don't hang out so much so she wouldn't know what was going on in my bedroom, but that still doesn't change the fact that I'd be breaking the chastity laws...and that's why I'm thinking of leaving since I don't want to break the laws...that's why I've been sweeping this stuff under the rug, and I don't want to do it anymore.
Do you mind if I add you? I rarely write in my journal (I'll try to work on that), but it seems like you're in a similar place to me re: your relationship with the Faith. I've been a Baha'i since I was 14 and often worry about the potential loss of meaningful relationships with members of my Baha'i community. I'm impressed that you have been so honest with your Baha'i friends already and am interested to know how they respond. (I could share some similar stories, perhaps I'll write an entry...)
Do you mind if I add you?
I don't mind at all! *adds you too*

I rarely write in my journal (I'll try to work on that)
*g* I try to work on posting too.

but it seems like you're in a similar place to me re: your relationship with the Faith.
*nods* Not a nice place to be at all.

I've been a Baha'i since I was 14 and often worry about the potential loss of meaningful relationships with members of my Baha'i community.
You'll see a "Trusted friends only" entry I posted yesterday; seeing how that went I'm tempted to get back into the closet....

I'm impressed that you have been so honest with your Baha'i friends already and am interested to know how they respond.
See above re: one person's reaction. *sighs*

(I could share some similar stories, perhaps I'll write an entry...)
Sounds like a good idea. :-)
Hi Ceci, welcome to the community. I imagine it's quiet because people's lives are busy with other things (at least, that's the case with me).

I understand how you feel about not being comfortable remaining a Baha'i if it means disagreeing with and actively disobeying the laws. I've felt this way for a while, but am honestly dragging my feet with withdrawing from the Faith because I don't want to rock the boat, especially with my parents. I'm (almost) 25, a Baha'i for ten years and an (out) lesbian for five. Congratulations on being true to yourself, it can be hard but it's definitely worth it in the end.

If you have a Facebook account, I'm in a LGBT Baha'i group there as well, which is somewhat more active. For some reason, it's hard to get a very large group of us together. I know we must be out there, but I imagine many people fell trapped in the closet and unsure of what to do considering how little recognition of homosexuality there is in many Baha'i communities.

Feel free to email me at mtxstxhelens at gmail dot com if you want to chat more.
Hi Ceci, welcome to the community. I imagine it's quiet because people's lives are busy with other things (at least, that's the case with me).
Thanks, and I think you're on to something. :-)

I understand how you feel about not being comfortable remaining a Baha'i if it means disagreeing with and actively disobeying the laws. I've felt this way for a while, but am honestly dragging my feet with withdrawing from the Faith because I don't want to rock the boat, especially with my parents.
I'm a first generation Bahá'í, and there was no problem with my parents (they had figured out that I'm bi long before I did *g*). I do worry about the reaction from other Bahá'ís, though.

I'm (almost) 25, a Baha'i for ten years and an (out) lesbian for five. Congratulations on being true to yourself, it can be hard but it's definitely worth it in the end.
I never really allowed myself to admit that I'm bi, but last Friday in counseling it kind of just came out....

If you have a Facebook account, I'm in a LGBT Baha'i group there as well, which is somewhat more active.
I just joined, but I'm still kind of a newbie and I can't seem to post in the Introductions thread....

For some reason, it's hard to get a very large group of us together. I know we must be out there, but I imagine many people fell trapped in the closet and unsure of what to do considering how little recognition of homosexuality there is in many Baha'i communities.
Yes. And not to mention the fact that Bahá'u'lláh says it's wrong.

Feel free to email me at mtxstxhelens at gmail dot com if you want to chat more.
*jots addy down*
Hi Ceci
I came out when I was 18 and now am 23, although my curiosity had already began years before. As a result I never signed my card, but have still led my life as close to the teachings as I could. Im in the same boat that I found it to hard to have a law so against you and still say your Bahai. However I'm still unwilling to give up my beliefs, and everyone I've talked to has said the same thing, you must find you own way. "If religion becomes a cause of dislike,hatred and division it were better to be without it..." Abdu'l-Bahá. The writings are meant to be contemplated, no one is perfect and you only live once (depending on your religion).

Coincidently my mother is actually having a more similar problem. My father passed away a number of years ago and she has found someone new. They are not married, but you can see where this is going. Between a gay son and a new man she has though about relinquishing her card. But why? You haven't changed, and your connection with god is just that, yours. So accept what you must have in your life, for a religion that causes you to live an unhappy, and unsatisfying life isn't worth having.

I am living with my bf, love him dearly, pray daily, and am currently fasting...each of us must find their own balance.
Hi,
Can we be friends?
My name is saran,i am just a simple lady in need of a good friend, i got your profile today at (www.livejournal.com) and pick interest in you so if you feel the same,you can contact me true my address ( saran_ek1@yahoo.com ) so that we can know ourselves better, to share the simple life with pleasure,hope to hear from you soon,
Thanks
Miss.saran