P.K. (yogurtrifle) wrote in gay_bahai,

I Don't Know.

This has been a long time in coming, I think.

As far as I know, the only requirements for being a Baha'i are the belief that Baha'u'llah is a manifestation of God, a love of God and the attempt to do good in the world.

Based on these criteria, I would fit.

However, I'm bisexual with strong leanings towards women only. I've felt nothing but rejection from the local Baha'i community. For example, a young Baha'i woman had sex with her boyfriend and became pregnant from it. The Baha'i community welcomed her with open arms and encouraged her to continue attending and they showed her love and consideration (and rightfully so!). Queer members of the community, however, aren't shown love and consideration. They're shown "Ugh. You know it's wrong, so don't talk about it, don't bring your partner, don't even pretend that your relationship with that person is anything other than something sinful and evil." Slowly, one by one, the queer members have stopped attending or left the Faith.

Imagine if they treated that young woman in the same way they treat the queer members! How unjust! How cruel! Premarital sex is clearly prohibited and instead they focused on inclusion and loving kindness (again, rightfully so!). Homosexuality is vaguely supported by a few sentences and where is the loving kindness? Gone. Vanished.

I'm disgusted. I'm embittered, actually. They have it in them to forgive anything another young person might do, but the fact that someone is in a loving, stable relationship with a member of the same gender is cause for rejection and thinly veiled hostility. Another young believer would get drunk on a regular basis, and didn't try to conceal it at all. This person was welcomed in, and rightfully so. A young believer had a criminal past of violence, and this person was welcomed, and rightfully so. Another young person struggles with drug use and the door is open.

But having a same-sex relationship? Get out, in the answer. We don't like you.

Based on the above criteria for being a Baha'i, I am one. I believe that Baha'u'llah is a manifestation, I believe in the oneness of God, in the oneness of humanity, in loving God and loving one's neighbors.

But basically, I feel like saying to Hell with the Baha'i community. Forgiveness my ass. I don't even think I need forgiveness for same-sex relationships, I don't think they're against God's word at all. I just wish they'd stop being such hypocrites. I've stopped going to Feasts and I feel disgusted by the Baha'i community at large. I would turn in my resignation--but I do believe in Baha'u'llah, so I'll keep the card in my wallet. I'm technically a Baha'i, but I want nothing to do with other Baha'is.

I believe in Him, I don't need to believe in them.
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